Despite K___ having another day off work, we had a dinner engagement at a friend's house. We hadn't seen him or his girlfriend for quite a while and they were both on good form. Also at this soiree were our friends who had suffered the ectopic pregnancy. We were both a little unsure if this might make things awkward.
It wasn't that we had concerns that they were going to be unsociable or depressed or anything like that. We'd have expected them to have turned down the invitation had that been the case. Given that we'll be telling the wider world in just a few days now, we felt a bit unsure about what to do if, for any reason, they made any sort of reference to us and babies.
Should we shrug it off? Should we come clean? We decided that if someone asked us direct, then we would tell them, but we'd play it by ear.
Well, our friends were remarkably stoical about what had happened and a pleasure to spend the evening with. Nothing came up that required a direct answer and so we will tell them when we had originally planned. It was good that we got to see them before we get to reveal our news. I feel it would have been very difficult to pitch up with our news cold. I'm sure they will be happy for us about it, but I know if it was me in their situation, it would make me dwell on what had happened.
It wasn't that we had concerns that they were going to be unsociable or depressed or anything like that. We'd have expected them to have turned down the invitation had that been the case. Given that we'll be telling the wider world in just a few days now, we felt a bit unsure about what to do if, for any reason, they made any sort of reference to us and babies.
Should we shrug it off? Should we come clean? We decided that if someone asked us direct, then we would tell them, but we'd play it by ear.
Well, our friends were remarkably stoical about what had happened and a pleasure to spend the evening with. Nothing came up that required a direct answer and so we will tell them when we had originally planned. It was good that we got to see them before we get to reveal our news. I feel it would have been very difficult to pitch up with our news cold. I'm sure they will be happy for us about it, but I know if it was me in their situation, it would make me dwell on what had happened.
Hi DW!
ReplyDeleteYou're Zygote Mummy, aren't you?
I'm sure you're correct! It's just we wouldn't want our news to be rubbing it in their faces at all.
The thing that we've felt might make it a bit harsh is the fact that their timing was so close to ours. Did you found out about your cousin very shortly after your miscarriage?
D-t-B